Happy 33rd Bday to Me!

Happy 33rd Bday to Me!

Thirty-three years old! Why not now?! Let’s get crazy and weird and stop living in a bubble!

As I sit back and tell my story, I reflect on the people in my life that provided me with the support and love that helped me through everything. They helped me through all of my bad decisions and unforeseen circumstances. They stuck by me and now, here I am.

So many people die without telling their stories, and I want to make sure that changes. Sometimes your story helps others tell theirs. Many times, we blame others for our own happiness and expect them to change it, but it is through ourselves that happiness is controlled. Effort alone defines your success, and you never know what you are capable of until you try.

I confess that I used to say “the reason people are successful is because things were handed down to them.” Negativity always creeps in, but it is essential to overcome it. So many of us are worried about the “likes” we have on a social media post or the acceptance of feeling “normal”- but fuck all that. I am here to tell you life is going to hit you hard sometimes, and you will forget the shit that really matters. Do not let it last long, because time will fly by and you will waste it worrying about shit that doesn’t matter.

As I write this, I am thirty three years old and feel the best I have ever felt.

Did it take forever? Fuck yes. Did I get hit by trucks and rolled over again and again? Fuck yes! Was all this worth it? Yes, it was because I am still here to tell my story and impact other lives. Does it suck sometimes? Yes, it does. Did I want to give up and fight depression daily? Hell yes. It is no secret that life is full of battles, but if you really look into the battles they are mostly against yourself and what you think “normal” is, or how you are “expected” to act from society. Stop, see how you react to everything, and change it! Change it to something that makes you happiest at that moment. Life is full of small moments that we never get back. And if you get caught acting like an ass hole, you miss the beauty, and the cycle continues, and you get mad at yourself again. The vicious cycle of negativity and “norms” will always try to creep back in.

There are times I stop moving so fast because I miss too many things with my little humans. I want to raise small, loving humans and attention is the best gift you can give anyone. I want to teach them to see the world’s beauty and overcome any challenges in their way.

At my lowest, I remember that life is full of loss, shock, and embarrassment, but fuck it. Life is also full of love, a shit ton of laughter, support, and smiles. Who cares about the people that are going to judge me because of the story I am living. Fuck them and their hateful attitude. They are just battling themselves and the happiness that they expect others to provide them. Stop!! Hold a fucking mirror with you because when you don’t agree with the shit that is happening around you, it is on you to change it, not others. So hold that fucking mirror up.

So go for a run, lift some weights, meditate, have a drink, or eat a piece of cake. Do whatever you need to get through something that is out of your control; maybe all of the above.

People often look at me with complete judgment when I share stories about my infertility or my husband recovering sex addiction. Through this judgment, I found more happiness with myself and my authenticity. It reminded me to look at myself, not worry about what others think, and to be honest with myself.

It is absolutely crazy how people can come back in and out of your life, but we forget the constant connection we have with ourselves. Me, myself, I, and the different stages we are in is what remains constant. People say your thirty-third year is Jesus’s year, no disrespect, but it is “Katy’s Year.”

I am working for a company that is focused on people, and that is what I have always focused on. In previous leadership positions, I was told that being a “people manager” is bad. So fuck it, that is why I am working for myself. Connecting with people and assisting them in growth is what I thrive in and where I am the happiest. Shout out to one of my old bosses that thought a flaw of mine was being a people person. Here I am, doing it all right for me!! I will continue to impact people with emotions, similarities, and empathy. With all due, respect fuck everyone else’s opinion of me.

I will push my way into people’s lives. I am going to be torn down by loved ones and strangers, but being me is worth it! Loud, loving, and lively- take it or leave it!

I love going overboard and stepping over boundaries, and I am going to keep doing it. Thirty-three is the year of the unknown but also the year of “self.” What defines me? Definitely not what I look like on paper but, more in my heart.

A Letter To My Daughter

A Letter To My Daughter

A letter written to my daughter so she can remain true to yourself and vulnerable to life to keep her grounded:

You are enough

You are worth it

Kindness is the most beautiful trait you can ever have

Laughter is the best medicine

You are not weak because you cry, keep being yourself and the emotional being you are

You are your biggest cheerleader (besides me, your mom)

Don’t let the ugliness in the world take over your dreams. There is still a lot of good, find those people

Learn through my mistakes as well as yours but never regret anything

I will not always give the best advice, go with your heart

Never let someone else’s judgments navigate your thoughts

You are worth it

You are enough

Your heart will break at some point and you will feel lost, go to the ones that will hug you through it

You are so strong and never let anyone tell you differently

You don’t need anyone to feel whole, you can do that for yourself

Be a great friend because your friends will get you through some hard times

You are worth it

You are enough

Read and travel, don’t let society tell you there is a milestone you have to be at as a woman

Stand up for what you know is right, and know that I will always have your back

When you fall in love make sure that person knows just how amazing you are because YOU already know just how amazing you are

You will make mistakes and fail, take that as a lesson learned and be better than you were yesterday

Help others, life is so short, and good people are so important

Don’t forget how much I love you and your success is measured by the love you give and receive

Confidence does not make you a bitch, those people are just intimidated, let them continue to talk

Do what you need to for yourself, you have nothing to prove to anybody

Strong men and strong women empower other women. Be careful who you surround yourself with

You don’t have to know everything, just make sure to learn something new every day

Love whoever you want, but make sure they’re good for your soul

You are worth it

You are enough

Not everyone that knows you knows what is good for you. Know yourself and know how to choose for yourself

Just because they love you doesn’t mean they know what is best for you

Remind yourself often how beautiful you are, and that society norms are not always right

I love you no matter what, and will always be proud of you

You, my beautiful daughter, will always be worth it


Love your mom, Katy

Addiction Is Real

Addiction Is Real

Addiction affects ordinary people

Addiction doesn’t always look the same

Addiction is everywhere

Addiction takes people’s lives

Addiction destroys families 

Addiction is real

Addiction needs to be talked about

Addiction does not always lead to recovery

Addiction recovery does not look the same

Addiction should not be secluded

Addiction should be conquered by connection

Addiction is real

Addiction could start as a child

Addiction could start as an adult

Addiction is scary as hell

Addiction could include multiple things

Addiction could take someone’s life 

Addiction is real 

Addiction is looked down upon

Addiction recovery could be empowering

Addiction needs to be talked about

Addiction doesn’t have to be the end 

Addiction can be overcome

Addiction is real 

Can We Finally Agree

Can We Finally Agree

Can we finally agree 

Can we just finally agree that these decisions aren’t right 

Can we just finally agree that hate cannot win 

Can we just finally agree that it doesn’t matter who you voted for 

Can we just finally agree that inhumane ways is not the way to peace

Can we just finally agree it doesn’t matter whose side you are on 

Can we just finally agree that kids should not be ripped away from their parents or come home to an empty house

Can we just agree that leaders aren’t doing what is right

Can we just agree that repeating history is not the way to change anything 

Can we just agree that automatic weapons should be harder to obtain

Can we just agree that buying an automatic weapon should be as hard as getting an abortion

Can we just agree that it isn’t about if you can own guns it is about not putting automatic weapons in the hands of everyone

Can we just agree that there are ways to compromise instead of “one way or the highway” mentality

Can we just agree that this trauma will never be erased for these children and families 

Can we just agree that we have veered off track 

Can we just agree that following what is popular is not always right

Can we just agree that people are not speaking up and cowards are hiding from doing what is right 

Can we just agree there is to many people motivated by money 

Can we just agree that even though you have made bad decisions in your life, doesn’t mean you have to stop caring and absolutely means that you can make a change now and do the right thing

Can we just agree this can be a chance to make a change

Can we just agree that hate needs to be stopped

Can we just agree that our differences are what make our world so beautiful 

Can we finally agree to start judging people on their character and not where they come from

Can we finally agree that the time is now for us to protect all the children and families and stop spreading hate 

Can we finally agree that love is still the answer 

True Love: A Lot More Work Than The Media Portrays

True Love: A Lot More Work Than The Media Portrays

“The course of true love never did run smooth” – William Shakespeare

I am a woman who fell for the “find someone and your whole life changes” kind of life.  Now the movies and books weren’t completely wrong but they did hype it up and put all of my happiness in someone else’s hands. What I came to find out is I held that key to happiness the whole time.  By reacting differently, being grateful, and not comparing myself to others is when I found true happiness.  Media makes love at first sight literally staring at someone and falling madly in love.  I don’t think that ever happens, I mean you definitely look at someone and feel a connection, but to look at someone and absolutely forget everything about life and see this person as better than yourself is kind of absurd.  I now look in the mirror and get that love at first sight kind of love.  I look in the mirror and see real, authentic truth pouring out of my heart and I am absolutely in love with my reflection.  Do not get me wrong, I do love my husband and I love who he is and has become but I have learned that loving myself first is the key to any successful relationship I will have in my life. It takes a ton of work and time to make relationships feel right.  Just like everything in life, things change and people grow and you need to be ready for all of that.  God will help lead the way but your effort has to be there and you should find that love for yourself first.  I think one of my greatest challenges in life is my marriage but I am wholeheartedly invested in a great story and giving people hope.

The truth is, you will outgrow your old self and you need to be ready to step into your new role.  The person you fell in love with at a younger age is still there but growing with that person is the best and scariest experience you will have.  I was in love with my young, playful, sweet, fat and lovable self as a child.  Then I lost myself for awhile in high school and college but I accepted that time as an experience of finding myself and although I still loved myself, I didn’t love myself first.  And now I adore the mom, professional, wife, sister, and daughter that I have become. I am overcoming challenges and obstacles I never thought would be a part of my life but I adore it.  I let myself feel pain and then I allow myself to forgive and move on. It is this cycle that some call vicious but I think if we call it the workable cycle of life than we may feel a bit more positive about it. Without love we don’t know ourselves and without relationships we really don’t know love.  So, remember that your thoughts and your hard work can lead you any direction, and although you will get off track, just remember to love yourself first!

Not What You Expected

Not What You Expected

Not what you expected:

– They say I should be embarrassed.

– They say I should be sad.

– They say they are sorry for me.

– They can’t believe what happened to me.


– I say this is life.

– I say I am stronger than what is happening to me.

– I say “I can’t be stopped.”


– They say I sound crazy.

– They say I should not be okay.

– They tell me to stay quiet.


– But without my voice, I am like everyone else.

– I say I refuse to stay silent.

– I will have those that love me and those that hate me, but my truth is mine. No offense to anyone but you don’t have to like it.


I will always have my story and although my journey tried to break me more than once… I came out swinging and fierce as fuck in the end. I love me and that is all that matters. Get ready world, because real shit is about to happen. We are about to change lives.